Mothers’ Day. Often this is not a day that those of us being honored might expect it to be. Many of us visualize relaxing, doing what we want to do, enjoying a clean house that was cleaned by others. Someone else cooks a nice dinner. The kids lavish love, hugs, and appreciation on us and tell us how wonderful we are.
Then reality sets in.
Instead of wishing a “Happy Mother’s Day”, it might be more appropriate and realistic to say something like “I hope you take this day and focus on the joy of being a mother while finding time for just you, on a normal busy Sunday”.
Kids, whether kids or adults, this is a time for you to not think about yourself for once. Make the effort to know how much you love and appreciate Mom. Really. Every day is kids day. A special gift doesn’t hurt, but mostly what moms want is to not be responsible for so much for one day, regardless of whether or not our kids are still small.
This is not to say that being a mom is too much work or stress. Children are a wonderful blessing and so worth our time and effort and love. Moms just need to focus on themselves and feel rejuvenated as often as possible to help them be a good mother.
Moms, here’s a reminder, you’re not in this alone. God is a great comfort and source of strength. It might feel like you’re the only one you can depend on to keep things in control. But you’re not. And we all worry about our kids. Here’s a verse that tells us the power of prayer: Philippians 4: 6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
Mothers of an adult daughter or daughter-in-law who has children, please honor her by having her, the kids and husband, over to your house. You have more time than she does. She can express her appreciation of you in a different way. Tell her to put her feet up and relax while you (and the kids and husband/s, hopefully) do the work or at least take most of the work from her. I say this because I hear so many women talk about how they made dinner for their parents and made the day all about their mother, and in so doing their own special day was actually extra work.
Now, let’s think about people for whom this can be truly a difficult day –
There are some mothers that are not there for their children. I wonder how their children feel on such a day as this. A friend of mine has two young family members that have been in foster care for several years and there are mental health concerns; their mother is a drug addict and their father is absent (neither one of these parents being the friend I refer to).
Finally, let’s remember that this is a difficult day for those who have lost a born or unborn child, or who desperately want children but experience infertility, and those who have lost their mother. All I can say to you is you’ll be in my prayers today.
May you find joy, laughter, love, and some peace on this Mother’s Day!